Birthdays

This is not a normal blog. Just a simple verrryyyy HAPPY 21st BIRTHDAY TO MY BEST FRIEND DIANE <3

Don't judge a book by it's cover

   Have you ever walked by a homeless person, saw a teen mom pushing her baby in a stroller, a skinny girl throwing away her food, or an overweight kid sitting down to eat lunch?  If you answered any of these with a no you must be living under a rock.  Now how many times have you seen situations like this & automatically assumed you knew their life story?  If your answer is none, well then you must be flawless, which I highly doubt is the case.  & If you have, well unfortunately you're not the only one.  Everyone judges as some point, I'm not saying it's the right thing to do by any means.  No ones perfect, everyone makes mistakes, and many of us judge someone before we get to know them. 

" A 15 year old girl holds hands with her 1 year old son. People call her a slut, no one knows she was raped at 13. People call another Guy fat. No one knows he has a serious disease causing him to be overweight . People call an old man ugly. No one knew he had a serious injury to his face while fighting for our country in the war.People call a woman bald but they don’t know she has cancer ."

Everyone has probably heard that quote in some variation many times before.  Most people probably read it and become saddened or disgusted knowing that people would do that, many people not realizing that they have contributed to that in some way.  This needs to stop.  We get so upset or defensive when we read something like that thinking "who would ever do that".  The unfortunate reality is that everyone does it.  And up until a few months ago I never thought anything of it. You think you know. It's not until your in a situation like that do you realize how much words and judgments actually effect people.  


A few months ago I found out my teenage sister would be having a baby.  Being the older sister I became scared, worried, and very aware about what was being said.  Not because I don't think she can handle it, but because I was worried and scared at the fact that everyone around us would judge her.  People make mistakes, it's human nature.  She didn't plan this, she doesn't sleep around, in fact her boyfriend is still around and they've been going strong for almost 2 years now.  Being a teen and pregnant does not define who my sister is.  If anything it only makes her more beautiful and a stronger person.  I've seen the way people look at my sister when we're out in public, and I know what to expect in a month when she is carrying around my nephew.  I am no longer scared for my sister, because I know other opinions and judgments that people may be making are completely wrong.  My sister is a genuinely warm hearted person who would do anything for anyone.  She's beautiful, smart, caring, and one of the best friends I could have asked for.  Yes she's young, but she is responsible, and she's hard working.  & Now I'm excited for her, for my family, and for my nephew.


The simple fact that someone is different, or doing something that goes against what you believe, or what your opinion is, it shouldn't matter.  We need to stop judging people based on what they like to do, or mistakes they have made, or how they live their lives.  We don't know everyone's story, and we have no right to judge them for something.  I can personally say that the next time I walk by a teen mom, my first instinct isn't going to be that she's a "slut", I will only think that she is a strong person for taking responsibility and doing what she can for her baby.  We need to change our attitudes about people, stop acting so high & mighty like we're so much better than others, because we're not.  & The people who think they are, only degrade themselves for making assumptions and judgements.   "Don't judge a book by it's cover".  Read it first.