One foot in front of the other

 So relationships end all the time right?  Whether it's bad timing, loss of interest in each other,  not enough of the little things, nothing being happy, even not being in love anymore.  I'm not a perfect girlfriend, I don't always say the right things, or do the right things, but in the end I have every intention of making that person happy, and I like to think I give it my all.  So why is it that this isn't always enough?  No one likes to hear that, and it's even worse to sit down and feel the after math of those words. A friend said it perfectly,

"We tend to lose what made our relationship work in the beginning; what initially attracted us to this person suddenly seems to disappear because we become blinded by all the things they "aren't doing" or aren't doing right. "

So why is it that after everything is said an done, the ones who were truly hurt in the end are the ones who continue to hold on.  And why is it that once we think were are moving forward, something gets in the way.  We work so hard to put one foot in front of the other and make it through one day at a time...and we eventually get to a good place.  We feel like we don't need them in our lives anyway, we no longer want to be with them, we think we're developing feelings for someone else. Then BAM...out of no where something comes along, whether it be hearing a song on a radio that reminds us of them, seeing an old picture, or even seeing them for the first time in over a year....yeah, even the smallest thing can kick us off our path that we've made for ourselves and back to where we started.

Then on top of that, there are plenty of other "Fish in the sea" that have shown their interest/ or are interested in us and we don't bite.  We say we are sick of the ass holes, or people who don't give us attention, or show that they care....but once a "nice guy" comes into the picture we want the ass hole again.  I don't understand this logic at all.  This is showing that it's okay to be the asshole, because good guys don't win.  But then we turn around again and ask where the good ones are?? What is wrong with us?

All in all I have learned that it takes a bigger person to put one foot in front of the other and move on.  It takes a very strong individual, someone who wants to make a better life for themselves to pick up the pieces and put them pack together.  To see the light at the end of the tunnel and continue to move towards what truly makes us happy.  One day it'll all make sense....we will understand the heartbreaks and sad days that we went through, but we will learn to appreciate and love so much more from that and that will lead us to a better life, and better relationships.